Saudi babies abandoned in US

I regularly recieve mail from women who have been in serious relationships with Saudi men. Even married. They have been left pregnant or with a baby, and the saudi man suddenly becomes cold and disappears.

These women are left with no loving support, and no financial support. And they do not want their children to grow up without knowing their fathers. But those fathers are long gone, And in Saudi you will never get at them. They are protected there. Most women told me they pay for everything themselves, even the pregnancy and healthcare and yet they do not want to ask for money. Only for their children have a father.

But, to you women, I say you should insist these men pay their right share for their children. If they did not want children they should have worn condoms. ( It is very unwise not to always have sex with a condom, because of sexually transmitted disease, and babies.) You should come together. Form a group.  You can support each other and help each other to feel better. And you can fight together. Together you will be strong, you will have power.

There is a facebook group allready: ”Saudi children left behind” this was started by a girl in \ohio. This is a good place to start from, but much more can be done!

You can also start a plan of action. of information. To inform other girls on campuses so they do not fall into the same trap.
What you women, those who write to me and those who dont, should do: is get together. \you should form a group. \you should get together and get a laywer and get media attention. Trust me it won’t be difficult. There are many ways to use the media.
7 nice girls with 7 cute abandoned saudi babies could be a good item for Oprah.

CNN will even be interested if you get a large group of girls with babies together.

Some people in the US are prejudiced, does not matter if you do not agree, use it! Go to FOX news and use a line about how these Saudi students get scholarships and abuse American girls, and abandone the babies. It is going to be an election year, these stories could get you a lot of media attention.

Now I have been told names some of which are from very well known important families. These families will not want a scandal. \the saudi embassy does not offer any help or support for you, but they won’t like bad reputation for saudi!

The Saudi government will not like this in the news.

With a good laywer you can get the financial support your babies deserve!

Edit:

New blog for women who have been lied to and left with a baby by a Saudi man:

http://abandonedchildrenbytheirsaudifather.blogspot.com/

official facebook page, Saudi Children left behind:

http://www.facebook.com/SaudiChildrenLeftBehind

 

Goody Goody Goody

Stuff from Saudi Arabia!

For everybody who keeps telling me to write something positive for a change, here are three goody news items!

14 year old girl rescued from 70 year old pedophile!

There was this little girl in KSA, only 14 years old. She was sold into  sexual slavery marriage to an old man. Her father decided to sell her so he could steal use her mahr. Mahr is the money a new husband pays for having sex with the new wife.  The girl did not get mahr, but the father got money for providing the old pedophile with his 14 year old daughter so he could buy a new car.
The price a 14-year old girl goes for these days is 17,000 Riyals and 100 head of sheep.
Of course the girl did not want to marry a 70 year old pedophile, but in the Kingdom of miracles you can get married without your consent and without even your presence.
The grandparents who have brought the girl up, the father never having cared for her, have succesfully rescued her. For the time being. At the moment she is placed under ownership of her grandfather who has her best interests at heart. Unlike her father who seems to have more interest in a good sale of his property.
As long as the official authorities do not send her back to the 70 year old pedophile the girl is safe. And considering his advanced age I can only  hope the old creep will snuff it within the year.

”We called Noura’s father in order to look into the facts of the case, and he confirmed the union but said that it was with the blessing of his daughter,” Bin Labda said.
After “confirming the truth of the complaint”, Bin Labda said that Noura was placed in the care of her grandfather, while her father was required to sign a pledge that she would remain there and that he would “refrain from any form of violence or force to make her go to her husband until official authorities in the town had ruled on the issue”.
Bin Labda added that the regional governor of Sabya had been informed.

I think it was in her advantage that the grandfather complained. A grandfather is a man. In cases where only the mother complained of the sale of her daughter the outcome is usually bleak.

What happens to all the girls who have nobody to save them from sexual slavery to old men? What happens to these girls when the old men finally die?

Disobedient woman rescued from prison sentence

Samar Badawi is a 29 year old divorced mother who has been sitting in a Saudi jail without a trial and without being charged for the last seven months. She has been accused of “filial ingratitude”.
In Saudi speak that means that when her father abused her, when he refused to allow her to marry, when his guardianship was being used to prevent her from seeking a safe and fulfilling life of her own, she – according to the judge who sent her to jail – was disobedient in seeking a court order to remove him as guardian.

Women can go to court to try and move their ownership to a better guardian, but you see the result: prison for the ”crime” of disobedience.

However, a sustained media campaign was started. A face book page was created, and thousands of twitters flew through cyberspace. This media attention finally led to her release from prison.
Ownership of her person has been transferred to her uncle.

What happens to the women who do not get this support and media attention?

Jeddah Pink Ribbon gets into the Guinnes Book of Records!

Here in Jeddah an estimated 6000 women gathered to break the German Guinness book of records number of women forming a pink ribbon.
There has been a lot of media and internet attention to promote awareness of breast cancer. Women here are not aware of breastcancer and even if the suspicion would come up they would hide it. I think many women are afraid to loose the little value they have once it is discovered they have the flaw of breast cancer or worse, have had a mastectomy. I have observed once or twice that indeed they have lost their value.

But, imagine what an achievement! In saudi no less! read susie of arabia’s excellent article for all the details. Imagine the hurdles saudi women had to overcome for this event! Hurdles unique to saudi and which women outside of the kingdom have no idea of!

Large congregations of people are discouraged. Men and women are not allowed to ”mingle” (that includes occupying the same public space), Organisations outside of  government, and without government consent are forbidden. The stadium was for men only. For this event the stadium was forbidden to men! Women are hidden beneath layers of black cloth and ”protected”, only with the express allowance of their owners would they be allowed to even participate. There is no public transport and women are not allowed to drive. So every single woman had to be driven there by a male driver who was not allowed to mingle with any other woman. The religious authorites objected. Law enforcement  objected. City government objected.
While this event could never have taken place without major massive Royal support,.

It is inspiring to see what women can accomplish in saudi if only they are given the chance to!!!!!

The story of an escape

beating women is considered a duty for many Islamic men. This is not unique, Many Imams preach this every friday.

Saudi law to stop childmarriage?

There has been news in saudi arabia of the intent to issue new marriage contracts that require the age of the bride to be given. As an attempt to stop underage girls from marrying.

Human rights groups have welcomed the new measures, saying clear-cut rules were needed to ensure underage girls were not harmed.

Laudable plans indeed but in saudi it means nothing. We keep hearing every year that ”women will be driving soon!”
For the last 20 years….
We will be hearing this for the next 50 years. ”Underage girls will be prohibited from being married”.
And what if this would actually become law? There is no real law system in saudi arabia, judges are allowed to make up punishments as they please. (And it very often pleases them to give out public lashings.)  But it also pleases them to take bribes. all the men who participated in the sale of an underage girl to a pedophile would have to do is shove some extra money towards the judge and he will turn a blind eye or have the papers faked.
Girls are married off against their will quite often in Saudi Arabia and no judge protects them. It also happens that another girl, all veiled, acts as the bride and agrees in her name. The real bride being locked up at home. Who is to tell the difference?
I am afraid the selling of girls to pedophile husbands will not be stopped anytime soon…

“There is a serious drive by the [justice] ministry to determine an age for girls to marry following the recent reporting of older men marrying young girls,” an official told the Saudi-based Arab News newspaper.

The National Society for Human Rights welcomed the new measures.

“The marriage of underage girls has been in the limelight for the past three years,” said NSHR chairman Mufleh Al-Qahtani.

“A number of lawsuits have also been filed to stop fathers marrying off their underage girls to older men.”

In February a 12-year-old girl decided to stay married to an 80-year-old man, after initially filing for divorce.

A $22,600 (£14,174) dowry had been paid to her father just months before.

In 2008, the case of an eight-year-old girl who was married to a 50-year-old man was revealed when the child’s mother tried to annul the marriage.

Defenders of child marriage say the practice is part of Saudi culture.

The hanging of a young girl

she was lonely, grew up without love, and she was only sixteen.
When religious men decided she had to die.
A death sentence for “acts incompatible with chastity”.
Her name was Atefah Rafavi Sahaaleh.

I have been thinking. I have seen how somebody got attacked on a forum because she said western women who convert to Islam are in a way traitors. To their ancestors who fought in the past for rights and equality in western countries.  To the other women who suffer in Islamic coun tires under sharia law. That  may be strong language. It was not wisely chosen.  But I agree. Western women who convert to Islam, with all they know or should know: Have an explanation to make. Questions to answer. There is much of beauty in the writings of Islam. But there is more which is ugly. There are words of equality and rights. But there is more of inequality. There is slavery. There is the abuse of women slaves. The official denouciation of women’s intellect. A woman’s testimony only counts for half a man’s. Woman have to obey men. Husbands can beat their wives.
And what about sharia law? Sharia makes a bad thing worse.
So can you answer these questions?

Did you read the Quran and hadith before you converted?
Do you understand what is said about women there?
Do you agree women are less than men?
Do you read the news?
Do you realise that in a country based on Islamic principles the women are opressed?
Have you seen them? thrown at an angry mob of men to be destroyed in a feast of hatred?
Do you agree that young girls of 8 years old can be married to 80 year old men? Or men who are diseased?
Do you agree a man can kill his wife without punishment?
Do you agree that women should be stoned for adultery?
Do you realise what Sharia law means to women?
Do you think you are safe because you are protected by the secular laws of your free country?
Do you turn away when you read or see what is done in the name of Islam to women?
Can you explain yourself?

If you were Born into an Islamic country, instead of in a free country,
This could be you.
This could be your daughter.
This is your sister!

You can see the whole documentary here:

Good news from Egypt

Egypt is cracking down on the sale of underaged girls to old men.

see newspaper link (in arabic)

An underaged girl got married off to an 82 years old man, in 2008.

The state has started a lawsuit about this. The verdict is out.

The Saudi man who brought married the girl gets 10 years. But he is out of the country and Saudi will not put him in prison.
The parents who sold her get one year each but suspended. Plus they had to pay fines.
The woman who arranged the sale marriage got ten years in jail.
She does this as a business; she finds rich saudi or khaleeji guys who want to buy marry underage girls, and gets paid for it.

Death by marriage

There is another tragic news item, this time the yemeni ”husband” of a 12 year young girl raped her to death.
She died three days after her marriage of internal bleeding of the ruptures to her body caused by the inhumane ”consumation” of her sexual slavery marriage.

The girl was married to a man at least twice her age, said Sigrid Kaag, UNICEF regional director for the Middle East and North Africa.
Her death is “a painful reminder of the risks girls face when they are married too soon,” Kaag said Thursday.

Amal Basha, chairwoman of the Sisters Arab Forum for Human Rights, a Yemeni human rights group, identified the girl Friday as Elham Mahdi.  “Elham was married on March 29th and died three days later” and lived in Yemen’s Hajjah province, Basha said.

The husband, complaining he could not ”consumate” the marriage asked a medical facility to tranquillise the girl so she could no longer resist his advances. They refused. He is reported to have tied her down. After which he was able to  rape her.  He took her to the clinic the next day because she was unable to walk.

Dr. Fathiya Haidar, a doctor at the clinic, told the Associated Press that she had suffered significant injury and “I told him not to go near her for at least ten days.” Elham may have been raped again after this clinic visit, as a post-mortem forensics examination showed much more extensive injury than what was reported by the clinic.

Rape and infection with hepatitis B

And all perfectely halal and according to Allah’s wishes as I have been told by some very sick people.
Usually men, who, I suppose, don’t want their own chances diminished when it is their turn, as old, sick riddled with std’s pedophiles to buy and rape little girls.

Are there parents who would want their little girl to be raped and infected with an std?

Yes, apparently such parents exist.

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Woman suffering from livercancer due to Hepatitis B

In Saudi Arabia hospital staff were shocked when a 65 year old man with hepatitis b wanted tests done (compulsory in KSA) so he could marry an eleven year old little girl! The parents were anxious to get the tests done as soon as possible, so they could deliver their little girl into the hands of an diseased pedophile to be raped and infected with a deadly disease.

Hepatitis B is a sexually transmitted virus which causes cancers.
To willingly and knowingly infect a very young girl, of eleven with this fate is tantamount to murder.
A slow death by cancer.

One wonders how much the old sick pedophile man paid for the privilege of raping a child and infecting her with his deadly std.

One wonders how sick the rulers and religious elite of a country like Saudi Arabia are to not only allow, but positively encourage an outrage, a crime like this.

I can’t tell you how utterly disgusted I am by hearing about these outrages, again, and again, and again.

We must not underestimate the fact that these outrages are reported in the papers though. In a country like Saudi Arabia such matters can only be reported if the ”powers up high” allow this to be reported.

And I think that the majority of the Saudi people are disgusted by this.
And while much has been said of ”change needing to come from within”,  This is rather difficult in a country like saudi arabia. Where political parties are forbidden, where people who are disliked by ”somebody high up” can just disappear. I think that a change in the ”people high up” will be much more effective in making a change for the good.

Human rights commission seeks divorce for 12 year old girl

The story:

A saudi man sells his twelve young little daughter to an 80 year old pedophile cousin. The girls mother tries to save her little girl and starts a lawsuit. After the second hearing she suddenly withdraws, and the girl also seems to give in to her horrible fate.
Now I can only imagine what horrible threats and blackmail has been levied at the girl and her mother to make them give in. But now, for the first time the saudi human rights commission intervenes into what is, and has always been, regarded as a ”family affair”. The saudi  human rights commission has filed for the divorce of the twelve year old girl.

Is this Islam?

These unequal marriages are not unusual in the kingdom. This girls family comes from the conservative Part of saudi arabia, the area near Riyad.  A conservative town called buraidah.
With ”conservative” I mean even more conservative.
She was sold by her father for the price of 85.000 Riyals. Sold because he kept the money for himself. In Islam the dowry is a payment for sexual access, and should be the property of the woman absolutely. In Islam fathers or husbands or brothers cannot touch a woman’s property. But in real practise of Islam this is dfferent.

The child herself has no say in the matter. The mother has no rights, so cannot stop it. In Islam a marriage can only be made with the consent of the woman. It is clear this little girl does not want to be married to the octogenarian. But her opinion carries no weight.

So no. This is not a marriage which should be sanctioned under Islam.

The media

The saudi media, and in result the world press, are reporting this case. These cases are being reported in the media more and more. This is fairly recent. This is very important. This means that some of the men high up allow this to be reported.
This is really important: the men in power allow this to be reported so may be, there is finally going to be some change.

The saudi people

This also reflects that many saudi people are against these practises. Family affairs are considered extremely private in the kingdom, but the saudi people do not want these unequal matches so much: that the unwritten rule of absolute silence in these matters is being broken.
Saudi people will sacrifice a lot to the cause of the just. There are many activists who risk imprisonement  for the cause of helping those in need.

I am feeling optimistic:

things are getting better. Let’s hope this girl will get her freedom back. Let’s hope she will get an education and a future. Let’s hope she will get a good husband who is not only good but also of a reasonable matching age.

God’s punishment

The difference between logical and scientific thought and religious thought is that science tries to find a reason.
Religion is far easier and less work: God wills it so. And if you suffer it is either God giving you a trial to make you a better person. Or, if you are more dark in your outlook: It is God wanting to punish you!

Because God loves people suffering he punishes a lot, and just in case you do not deserve being punished He makes sure that you are born a woman The male scholars tell us that God has put far more restrictions on women as on men. He  has placed enough restrictions in women’s life to make it hell on Earth.
The only women who have escaped this are the true believers. The women who delight in suffering for God. The women who find a masochistic pleasure in suffering for god. And this pleasure is enhanced by the comfortable feeling of being so much better, so much superior as everybody else.

One example is total obedience to your husband. Which would expand to your children. Which means that if your husband decides to sell marry your eleven year old little girl to an octogenarian pedophile, you submit. And you make sure your daughter submits because that is what Islam is all about. Submission.

If your daughter is then raped and dies nine months later while her tiny immature body tries to deliver a baby which it is not ready for then there are two explanations.

1. the scientific explanation: A girl so young should never be considered ”ready for marriage” A girl that young is not full-grown. While she might have her menses, her body is not yet strong enough to carry and deliver a baby. (we are leaving the developement of her mind and her schooling out)
2. the religious explanation: God punishes you for being so stupid and greedy to sell marry a girl who is way too young into bondage sexual slavery marriage. God punishes you for being a pedophile and not being able to keep you old hands off a little girl. Punishes you by letting her baby die or be born damaged, or by killing the little girl, or by killing both the little girl and the baby.

The other example is the gender specific hell of total covering. Despite God having designed our bodies. The clerics tell us He thinks we are so shameful we have to be covered to every inch of our bodies. Because He has also designed men to be weak stupid sexually obsessed pigs. Who cannot control themselves, (and cannot be taken to account) when the poor weak creatures are confonted with the sexual allure of hair, a face, bare arms, or hands, Two eyes, etc.

So it’s a woman’s jihad to suffer in layers of black cloth. Black.

Because to increase the suffering God has decreed (according to the scholars) all women should wear black outer tents. Now with the suffering comes a comfort. the comfort of superiority you feel when you contemplate you are a hidden pearl and sooooooo much superior as the whores who do show their hands and feet and eyes.
Now full veiling has its costs besides feeling sick, have your breathing restricted, not being able to see and being cut off from the world and being reduced to a non-entity. The costs are health. Because you are deprived of sunlight you are deprived of vitamin D which will make your bones brittle in old age, and cause you more suffering. But it will also increase the chance of your children being born malformed and diseased with rickets. Rickets is a horrible disease which is on the rise as more and more women are forced by religion to cover. A horrible disease which will cause unimaginable suffering in your children.

Rickets deform the bones and the spine.
It is a deficiency disease.  So a disease which is preventable. It was also a disease of ignorance and poverty. This disease has been abolished since a long time in the west.  That is, until Islamic veiling came to the west. Now it is back.  You can easily prevent rickets by getting enough sunlight on your skin for your body to make enough vitamin D to keep you healthy. And to enable your body to produce a healthy child. Children who are kept out of the sun will also develop rickets, even if they seemed healthy when born.

Now there are two explanations as to why the increase of the birth of children debilitated with rickets:

1. Science: The human body needs an adequate amount of sunlight on the skin to enable it to make the vitamin which is essential for keeping your bones strong, and for producing healthy children. Lack of sunlight results in osteoporosis, and babies being born with rickets.
2. Religion: God has made your body to need the vital influence of sunlight onto your skin. So the idea of total covering and veiling never was God’s idea. It was God’s idea that you should show enough bare skin to the sun so as to keep you healthy.
   The sad cases of rickets being on the rise is God’s punishment for being so stupid as to cover yourself completely with black cloth and never get out of doors in Gods nature. Feeling God’s sun on your kin. Feeling God’s wind on your skin.

Blogger Hikari reminded me of the idea that marrying little girls is also against God’s wishes. As demonstrated by the horrble suffering it induces.